So long story short: I was basically friends with benefits with this guy that i work with. At first I wanted a relationship with him, but he said that he didnt want anything serious. I knew that that is a HUGE red flag so I ended things because I didnt want to get too attached and then hurt in the end. He was nice about everything and he said that he still thinks I’m a nice and cool girl. He’s always still nice to me at work and he will be friendly and talkative so its not weird or anything. We recently made out at a friend’s party and that sort of reignited the idea that we should be fwb again but I decided to stick with what I thought was right at the time and say no. He was okay with everything and we were still cool with each other at work.
HOWEVER…I had a girls’ night the other night and we all got pretty drunk. I was telling my friends about how I was talking to a couple of guys but that I didnt feel all that interested in them. I told them that I really had a crush on the old fwb. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a guy that I am no longer interested in personality wise, and by contrast, the fwb has like EVERYTHING I am interested in personality wise (confident, funny, smart, responsible, etc.).
My friends basically encouraged me to try out being fwb with that guy again since I’m single, I still want to “play the field”, but also I like the fwb guy as well. I was drunk but I really think it makes sense in all honesty. I do want the option to talk to any guy who I want, but I do really like the fwb guy plus we had REALLY GREAT SEX.
I ended up texting him at like 2am (but he’s out of town on vacation right now). I just said something along the lines of “Hey, I like you and I know I said that I said that I didnt want to have sex anymore with anyone unless I’m dating them, but I think that we had really great sex and that we should just do that casually and it wont be a big deal. Plus I’m talking to other guys too so you dont have to worry about it getting serious or anything. And I know its weird to text you so late and you probably think I’m really drunk but I actually mean it.”
He never replied to that text and now I feel really awkward!! He normally takes a long time to respond so I didnt think it was a big deal at first but its been like 3 days and he hasnt answered. He normally ALWAYS answers within a day at the latest. So now idk what to do. I have to work with him on Friday.
Part of me thinks that he just forgot to respond since he sucks at texting and he has admitted that to me. I want to believe this part because he always wanted to be fwb from the start and I was the one who wanted to be more serious. So I would assume he would be all for a fwb with me. Plus he’s told me like a week and a half ago that he thinks I’m really sexy, nice, smart, etc.
But I don’t understand why he wouldnt respond! Why wouldnt he just say yes or no? He’s the type of guy who I’ve had really mature discussions with him about “what we are” and he had no problem in the past expressing himself so I dont understand why he couldnt have just told me “no thanks” if he wasnt feeling it anymore instead of just not responding.
When I go to work on Friday I plan on just acting like nothing happened I guess?
Should I text him again? or should I just let it go? & What do you think is going on?